Let’s take inventory of our relationships. Relationships reveal so much about us. We are the vibrational average of the five people we spend the most time with. Therefore, our relationships are very much a mirror reflecting back to us our beliefs, our mindset and our self-image.
As individuals and as a collective, we project beliefs, attitudes, behavior and expectations into our relationships and onto the world. These projections influence our life experiences. A mindset is a set of attitudes or beliefs held by someone. If reality is a mirror, then it is our mindset that is the key to changing our lives, improving our self-image and healing our relationships. To shift, we must gently and with grace train our attention toward the data that will build the beliefs, attitudes and behaviors that lead to changes in what we project. We can use the information available to us from the reflections of our relationships to help us shift.
The world acting as our mirror, will always reflect back to us what we have projected onto it. While standing in front of a mirror, do we lock horns with our frowning reflection demanding that it smile at us first before we agree to smile back? This is futile! Most of us understand that if we wish the reflection in the mirror to smile at us, we must choose to first smile into the mirror.
How we treat ourselves informs others, the mirror reflections of aspects of ourselves, how to relate to us. If I am judgmental of myself, I will be judgmental of you and you in turn will be judgmental of me, hence the frown. If I am compassionate toward myself, I will be compassionate toward you and you in turn will be compassionate toward me, making it easier to smile.
We can only see without what we are able to see within. We can only feel without what we are able to feel within. Allowing our imagination to consider this, we enable ourselves to take ownership of what we project. This is where the real power to shift lays.